@shoutcacophony @Lumb @killeveryhetero And I have personally been bullied by people in that friend group, and I had someone in that group tell me I was "inventing a boogeyman." And another not mad, laughing actually.
I do not wanna deal with this toxicity. I don't. I need online stuff as an outlet and to a far lesser extent my career. I hope someone will take this to heart and not keep doing this, but I really doubt it.
I'm gonna have to figure out a way to mod and also disengage.
@shoutcacophony @Lumb @killeveryhetero That's a really good point. I am willing to concede it's definitely an intersection, but generally, "thing x IS thing y" rather than "these things have a lot of things in common" tends to go over really poorly. I've never been able to get around it even with identities I have.
But yeah, I saw people make joke posts about kin who, whatever people feel about them, are completely harmless, and it was really awful and not what I come here for.
@anthonydavis @killeveryhetero This isn't an argument. I've personally been treated like shit by your admin, as an admin I've had to deal with shit you don't know about because y'all are really super toxic to people. If you wanna hide behind glib, cool.
If y'all could figure out how not to treat people like shit so I don't have to hear about it all. the. fucking. time, I'd appreciate it. Like I say, I've had to deal with y'all personally before and I don't like thinking about it.
oh good, I'll just go invalidate the normie members who came to me literally scared and who still have their accounts locked down and tell them they're wrong and dumb because a chat with a rep for bullying people and not giving a shit thinks it's no big.
@anthonydavis @Lumb @killeveryhetero I had to spend, like, the morning dealing with kinda freaked out people explaining to them that, like, no the Pizza accounts aren't a pizzagate thing. Y'all created spam lists with a right-wing code word because you're all best friends and you're part of a "deep state" that, let's be real, y'all 100% believe and enjoy.
My first encounter with your admin was them bullying me. And then you had Gargon this week, which, I mean, who cares about Gargon, but it's not because y'all CARE about anything. You just like hurting people and Lumb's the latest person who "deserves" it.
I know it's funny to you. It's a glib, vicious culture you've got going there.
But I absolutely cannot. It's really hurtful. I'm sorry what's happened, but it's gonna hurt people's feelings because it makes them feel like their pain's a benchmark.
That make sense?
Funny how there's always a new victim.
Like, I would strongly advise Lumb to let each marginalization stand on its own.
But I'm sorry, I saw a lot of the stuff just shitting on kin on the TL, and it's just a bunch of bullies. And there'll be someone else next week. I'm sure they'll deserve it too.
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being ostracized because of overlapping or being part of a culture within an oppressed group can be as actively harmful as systemic bigotry within the larger society.
don''t think your needs place you above driving people to despair. if anything, it can hurt double, because it feels like you have *nowhere* you belong.
so you can lose me with the "yeah, but you won't get fired or attacked for it". that's bullshit and people should know better.